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We’ve got a longer Struggle Session for you this week — I had a whole lotta time to kill on a very long flight — and I dropped in a question at the end that isn’t going to make it into the column. If you make it all the way to the end of this … Read More »
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After 19 years together, my husband and I have finally managed to have a really good conversation about our desires. We both struggled to nail down what it is we want — he is a long-term Catholic guilt sufferer — but got to talking about what porn he likes. Turns out he’s into these coercive type scenes, … Read More »
Hey, everybody! I’ll be hosting Savage Love Live for our Magnum Subs a little less then an hour. I hope to see as many of my subs there as possible! But first: I’m going to toss up a couple of quick things for today’s Struggle Session — including a letter I won’t be responding to … Read More »
What do you think of a man who lied to a woman to manipulate her into staying in a relationship knowing that if he told her the truth she would leave? My boyfriend agreed to exclusivity and monogamy. He immediately began to violate this agreement. He lied repeatedly to me about who these other people … Read More »
We’re doing something a different with Struggle Session for the rest of the summer: Instead of me responding at length to reader/listener comments, I’m tossing up one or two short things — quick comments, quick responses — and then sharing a letter that came in this week that’s too long for the column. (Savage Love … Read More »
1. Why do so many people — even kinky ones — regard the Daddy/babygirl dynamic as hot but think Mommy/little boy role play is disturbing? Because people can’t stand to see middle-aged women happy and in control. 2. Am I on the asexuality spectrum or do I just have a very low sex drive 95% of … Read More »
Like I said last week, we’re doing something different with Struggle Session for the rest of the summer. Instead of me responding at length to reader/listener comments, I’m gonna toss up one or two short things — quick comments — and then share an interesting letter that’s way too long for the column. (Savage Love … Read More »
Dear Readers: Instead of digging through all the emails that hit my inbox this week, I grabbed the first five questions at the top of the pile and answered them in the order they came in. — Dan I am a man. I met a beautiful Nepalese woman at work. The co-worker who introduced us … Read More »
Dear Readers: Like I said on the Lovecast this week, I’m taking a break from Struggle Session for the rest of August. My summer has been a little crazed — in mostly good ways — and I still haven’t managed to figure out how to keep Struggle Session to a manageable length. Anyway, on the … Read More »
Straight, monogamous, cisgender couple here. Six years together, two years married. My husband loves board games, problem-solving, and anything that gets his brain going. But like many straight white cis dudes, he’s not particularly aware of what motivates him. He’s also not straightforward with exactly what turns him on. But one thing he likes is … Read More »
I’m a queer cis woman in my late 30s with a problem: I don’t like having my pussy eaten. This isn’t about me being uncomfortable with the way my pussy looks or smells or tastes. I just don’t like the sensation. At best, I get close but eventually plateau, which is frustrating. At worst, it … Read More »